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Sex in 40's - Let's Keep It Hot!Hmm. Sex in 40s - Is it non-existent, just okay or great?? Our sex life changes throughout the years, so how do we keep it hot?
Some think it’s all over by the time we reach our 40’s, or that it’s all downhill from here. But, that is not so. We may even feel saucier than ever at this time in our lives as female testosterone levels usually surge during this period. We have more wisdom and confidence at this age, and this maturity can definitely be a plus for us! Generally the children are grown and no longer require so much ‘hands on’ attention and we have more time and energy to put into our sex lives. That’s not to say that we are up to twice a day or anything, but certainly many are more inclined to a romp in bed than we were a few years ago. "Intercourse isn't everything - It is usually when we are in our forties that we have decided that the long term commitment we made to our partners is about to pay off. Our knowledge of our partner’s body brings a deeper satisfaction and fulfillment in our sex lives. We are usually more comfortable with our partner’s likes and dislikes, their fetishes and are more able to be a little more adventurous in our sexual exploits which may help spice things up. Many women generally lose their inhibitions with age, and this is often heightened after menopause by the absence of fear of pregnancy. This can be extremely liberating for some women.
"500 ways to spice up your love making" from Oprah's love expert. As well as this, there are so many born-again singles in their forties who are discovering all over again what sex was like in their twenties. Having been with the same partner for some 15 or 20 years, to have someone else find them ‘sexy’ is such a confidence booster. Mid-life is a great time to reassess what’s out there and explore your life options. In the age of sexual revolution, it is more acceptable to experiment with various partners, simply for enjoyment rather than commitment. (More on that subject on another page!) "Throw the old pj's away and dust off the black teddy from the back of the drawer!" As a man moves into this age group, it is a fact that his manhood may not always rise to the occasion like it used to. Therefore his priorities will more than likely change with him displaying a sense of sexual generosity as he takes his time pleasuring his partner. This provides for a more tender, emotional and connected experience for the couple. As we move into our late forties, women may experience problems with lubrication or vaginal dryness. At the same time, he may suffer erectile problems and sexual insecurity. These issues are not insurmountable, with many products on the market today to assist. This is also a time when experimentation together is high, and such tools as sex toys may bring a spark to the bedroom.
The majority of couples who are in mid-life, or have been in long term relationships, are at risk of the union going stale, and therefore need help to keep their sex life interesting. Conventional couples may frown at the suggestion of sex tools being introduced to spice up their sex lives, however if something like watching a ‘blue’ movie or using a vibrator works, and as long as both partners are willing, then it can only be beneficial. Some advice? Try everything once before you decide against it. Maybe even twice just to make sure! Sometimes it may be necessary to plan ahead, set the mood and anticipate a love making session. Routine late night ‘quickies’ before turning off the light may satisfy physical needs of relief, however don’t do much to satisfy the emotional feelings of either partner. These emotional needs must be satisfied to create connection and longevity in any relationship, and anticipation of what lies ahead when setting the mood is a fantastic aphrodisiac to connecting both emotionally and physically with your partner.  It is important to take the time for arousal and be aware of each other’s physical responses. Talk with your partner, discuss issues which may intrude on your sexual comfort zone, but be confident. Make sure that sex in our 40s is super - we've earned it! "500 ways to spice up your love making" from Oprah's love expert Go to Top of Page - Sex in 40s Return from Sex in 40s to
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Can we simply turn on the switch?
Sex aids should not be overlooked, and come in a variety of forms such as magazines or books, videos, games, sexy lingerie, pictures and vibrators to name a few. These aids may be used in conjunction with or in place of the traditional sex methods.
